" Always remember that anything bad that happens is someone/thing else's fault. Keep away from blaming yourself :)" I don't necessarily...

I did have a lot of trouble articulating that thought. It’s hard to say “your cats health is not your fault” without using ‘not’. Yes, acknowledge personal screw-ups. But don’t beat yourself up because it’s counter-productive. Learn and grow instead. If there’s nothing you can/could/are capable of do(ing), acknowledge that too.